wordno, sorry man, same thing happened to me. i was hoping for the week after that she would ask me back. just got to move on, and those memory triggers will probably still continue, juet gotta stay strong. but go with Apple Beatle's idea, listen to the saddest songs and then go into all the best upbeat songs, the ones that rally you.

It just sucks so bad..I mean its normal to hope that maybe I'll get a call back from her saying that she wants me back...But I know that I can't live in the fantasy world anymore that I created when I was with her. Those times where the best, but I know if I keep dwelling on her and the past that I'll never get over her. In my mind the relationship is over...and I've made it clear to almost everybody. I miss her like hell..but in all honesty..she left me and she is not coming back. I'm keeping that in my head and its been helping me not have any urges to call or text her. The pain can be unbearable at times...and when it is..I go to anyone (especially my mom, she has been such a great help) that will help me get my mind off of things. I don't plan on ever calling her...but if she calls me and wants to get back together..than I probably would. Guys are weak when it comes to those things

nah, fu*k her wordno. shes not worth it. she treated you like mess so theres no reason to get back with her if she asks. come on, lift your chin up, find someone out there that will love you for you. you are the great wordno-ini, so go out there and find someone. someone that you care for in your heart, and not all that left over lovin. if they're worth it then they'll love you right back no matter what

Well I talked to her today. From my impression she was done with the relationship for good. She did say that she still loves me...but I didn't return it. For some reason saying it back would have made me think she still has a hold on me and their is no way in hell that I would want her to think that. I didn't give her the satisfaction of me begging her to take me back. I just said ok. She then was like "I hope we can be friends. You were the best boyfriend I've ever had. I need someone like you in my life" I told her "Nope, sorry. We can't be friends. In order for me to move on(which I've been doing great) I have to dissapear from your life. You will never hear from me again." She didn't take that too well. She said something like "Oh great, now I've lost you for the rest of my life..ugh...thanks for the great start to the day" I said "I'm sorry it has to be this way, but who knows maybe we'll meet again someday in another life when we are both cats. So long Amber, good luck to you. I hope one day you manage to get back on your feet." After that, I hung up and didn't look back. But man...ugh...I'm hurtin so bad right now. This sucks

im there for you man...

(brokeback beatle forum moment)

anyway, it hurts now, but it'll get better. its getting better all the time.

(hey, can we have a thread without someone making a beatles song reference? )

oh boy...wordno...from all I've read so far, you did the right thing. To be friends after a break up isn't the best, and her having the nerve suggesting it...phew! Made the same experience a while ago. All I can say -after some time passed by- she only wants you to be her back up if anything goes wrong. That's how my ex-boyfriend thought anyway.
You'll get through this with a little help from your friends....ooops sorry, shouldn't have made any reference to the Beatles

Plus(and I know this might sound a little harsh) I wanted to get back at her because she thought she could take the easy way out and avoid being really hurt by being my friend. I know she still loves me and the only way I could think of getting back at her was pretending like I didn't care and that I won't be her friend. I know she was hurt pretty badly by my reaction. If I'm going to be hurting...I want her to be hurting too. Plus being her friend would never let me get over her. Its a good thing though that whenever I need Help! my mom or my friend are their to talk to me and keep me from thinking about it. Plus just talking to you guys is really helping me get over this rut. I've got a feeling that I'll be okay. Thanks for all you guys for being here for me

I know what you mean, I wanted my ex to feel the pain too...but he never did. Wast of time believe me.
You'll be okay sooner than you think.

we are here to help. let all your emotion come out on this thread dude. we are here for you. hell, we'll even buy you drinks sometime

i forget the song, but it was by blink 182 that always picks me up when i think of my ex.

"And you'll smile,
and I'll wave,
we'll pretend its okay,
the show will end,
it won't last,
when he's gone,
I won't come back,

and it happened once again,
she'll turn to a friend,
someone that understands,
sees through the master plan,
and then when everybody's gone,
i've waited far to long,
to make it on my own,
well i guess this is growing up"

Man....I miss her bad. I'm so tempted to call her. I know thats a huge mistake..I'll never really move on if I do. Plus I already know shes moved on and gotten with someone(I know her...she needs male support. She has definately got with someone) I'm starting to regret turning down her offer of being her friend. But what if she doesn't want to be my friend and turns it down? If I do contact her, it will be through text. What if she doesn't text me back? That would be absolute torment waiting for her text back..and if she doesn't text back at all it will be heart break and will make things harder to move on. Plus the fact I'm still not over her might be bad cause if I find out she is with someone else...then my heart would probably break to the point where it can't heal. What should I do?

Quoted from Kate

I know what you mean, I wanted my ex to feel the pain too...but he never did. Wast of time believe me.
You'll be okay sooner than you think.

MOve on!  Time is not to be wasted wallowing....Ask yourself. How attractive does that look?

Your heart will heal...thats for sure....Plenty, plenty worse things can happen. I do mean the best for you but forget this thread...infact I'm pretty sure when there will be a time when you want to delete it. Get a grip my friend. Texting, heartbreak, heart not healing? I'm not havin it Wordno...Get a grip! The sooner the better!!!


I mean you well...i really do.

Quoted from An_Apple_Beatle

MOve on!  Time is not to be wasted wallowing....Ask yourself. How attractive does that look?

Your heart will heal...thats for sure....Plenty, plenty worse things can happen. I do mean the best for you but forget this thread...infact I'm pretty sure when there will be a time when you want to delete it. Get a grip my friend. Texting, heartbreak, heart not healing? I'm not havin it Wordno...Get a grip! The sooner the better!!!

I mean you well...i really do.

He's right you know  

If she doesn't feel any pain like you do, she was never worth it in the first place. Maybe she'll need male support, but what is the value of that. You will be so much stronger by proving yourself you can do it by yourself. Go travelling. Do things you've never done before. And then: read Apps' words...

lifes a piece of mess, when you look at it.
lifes a laugh and deaths a joke, its true
so when your chewing on life's gristle,
dont smile, give a whistle,

aaaaaaand always look on the bright side of life,

but seriously, shes not worth it. get yourself back in the game. rebounding is the cornerstone of anylife, go forth and tally ho!