Topic: Random Thoughts (Read 650602 times)

Mairi · « **Reply #7860 on:** February 18, 2012, 07:20:11 PM »

Telling someone they're interesting is sort of a backhanded compliment IMO. At least in my experience.

JimmyMcCullochFan · « **Reply #7861 on:** February 18, 2012, 09:15:19 PM »

Quote from: Mairi on February 18, 2012, 07:20:11 PM

Telling someone they're interesting is sort of a backhanded compliment IMO. At least in my experience.

How is it backhanded?

Mairi · « **Reply #7862 on:** February 19, 2012, 06:58:44 AM »

If it's coming from someone that you have romantic feelings for, it feels like a brush-off.

tkitna · « **Reply #7863 on:** February 19, 2012, 11:40:56 AM »

One of those loaded statements.

Mairi · « **Reply #7864 on:** February 19, 2012, 03:35:13 PM »

Interesting is one thing, but when it comes to some things, I'd much rather be perceived as intelligent or beautiful. I mean, lots of people are interesting but you don't fall in love with interesting.

Joost · « **Reply #7865 on:** February 19, 2012, 07:34:05 PM »

Quote from: Mairi on February 19, 2012, 03:35:13 PM

Interesting is one thing, but when it comes to some things, I'd much rather be perceived as intelligent or beautiful. I mean, lots of people are interesting but you don't fall in love with interesting.

I strongly disagree. Falling for a woman just because she's beautiful seems pretty shallow to me. Intelligence says nothing about someone's personality. Isn't being sincerely interested in someone the most essential foundation for a healthy relationship?

Mairi · « **Reply #7866 on:** February 20, 2012, 03:17:55 AM »

You'd think so, but "you're interesting" is the #1 thing people say to me when they're letting me down easy.

Hello Goodbye · « **Reply #7867 on:** February 20, 2012, 04:44:05 AM »

Quote from: tkitna on February 19, 2012, 11:40:56 AM

One of those loaded statements.

I'm afraid I agree, Mairi. I think your take on it is correct. There's a difference in the statements "You're interesting" and "I'm interested."

You should have replied "So is Tolstoy" and watched the reaction.

Mairi · « **Reply #7868 on:** February 20, 2012, 05:08:23 AM »

Haha, I like that. Will have to keep it in mind for the future.

Hello Goodbye · « **Reply #7869 on:** February 20, 2012, 05:10:30 AM »

I sincerely hope you won't have to use it often.

Mairi · « **Reply #7870 on:** February 20, 2012, 05:42:09 AM »

Yeah, me too.

JimmyMcCullochFan · « **Reply #7871 on:** February 20, 2012, 02:59:28 PM »

I meet up with my friend Karen today. We hadn't really talked too much before meeting up today so I wasn't really sure what to expect. We met up, got coffee and walked to Abbey Road studios and then to Paul McCartney's house. I really enjoyed my time with her and throughout the day, thought wow, she is brilliant. I did feel a connection with her and enjoyed learning more about her.

When we got back to the tube station, we were saying our goodbyes and there was that moment of what should I do now when neither one of you make a move. We didn't kiss but I did hug her and ended up feeling pretty good about the way things had gone. I've been here over a month and this was the first time we met up! I don't know how she feels about it but I 'm not going to rush into anything. I'll wait a bit and see how things go from there. Sucks that I'm only here till late April so if things did develop it'd be a bit pointless to get in a relationship. She is older than me which I didn't know! Because like I said we hadn't really talked too much but she asked me how old I was today and I said 24 and she said oh I'm older than you. Guess how old I am. She is 29 and she doesn't even look like it. I thought early-mid 20's at least.

I've always gone for girls younger or the same age as me but maybe it is time to go for an older girl?

Bobber · « **Reply #7872 on:** February 20, 2012, 03:13:52 PM »

An advise from an old codger who has had his share of heartache: don't wait. Age is of no importance when love is in the air. And there obviously is. And you're only there till late April, so don't hesitate. Call her and ask her if she would like to continue where both of you stopped while standing at the tube. Or get her in here and let her read your post.

Good luck.

JimmyMcCullochFan · « **Reply #7873 on:** February 20, 2012, 03:23:52 PM »

Quote from: Bobber on February 20, 2012, 03:13:52 PM

An advise from an old codger who has had his share of heartache: don't wait. Age is of no importance when love is in the air. And there obviously is. And you're only there till late April, so don't hesitate. Call her and ask her if she would like to continue where both of you stopped while standing at the tube. Or get her in here and let her read your post.
Good luck.

Well I wouldn't say that love is in the air just yet but I did feel something

I'm going to ask if she wants to go out for coffee or something on Friday and then make plans with her for a later date since she's busy the next couple weekends.

Mairi · « **Reply #7874 on:** February 20, 2012, 03:48:10 PM »

Speaking as a gal, I think you should go for it.

JimmyMcCullochFan · « **Reply #7875 on:** February 20, 2012, 04:08:17 PM »

Quote from: Mairi on February 20, 2012, 03:48:10 PM

Speaking as a gal, I think you should go for it.

I think I will. Speaking as a girl, what do you make of neither of us not doing anything for a few seconds as we said our goodbyes at the tube? I was thinking oh what do I do now? Do I hug her? Kiss her? I ended up just giving her a hug but she did hug me back.

Mairi · « **Reply #7876 on:** February 20, 2012, 04:28:39 PM »

I think it means that both of you wanted to do something but were too shy.

Normandie · « **Reply #7877 on:** February 20, 2012, 05:15:56 PM »

Quote from: Hello Goodbye on February 20, 2012, 04:44:05 AM

I'm afraid I agree, Mairi. I think your take on it is correct. There's a difference in the statements "You're interesting" and "I'm interested."

You should have replied "So is Tolstoy" and watched the reaction.

That's a good one

And for the record, I think your take on it is correct, too, Mairi.