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Age Differences in Dating
« on: September 16, 2006, 12:58:06 AM »
Some people say that girls shouldn't date older guys... that guys only want one thing out of them. Well, I don't think that's true. Girls are naturally more mature than guys, so a 15-year-old girlwould have the same maturity level as a 17-year-old guy (if not more). I am 16, and I would never date a guy over 19, mostly just because my mom would freak out (Not that I've gotten any offers). What do you think?
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Re: Age Differences in Dating
« Reply #1 on: September 16, 2006, 01:05:38 AM »
Nothing's wrong with the age for me ... I used to be dating an older woman (older than me, I mean ... about 6 years ... and don't think about a Yoko thing here  ;D)

I'm a young man but I was younger than now (oh, yeah ... was Paul near to hear this joke again  ::)?) and now I'm dating a younger one (just 4 years) ...

When you're in love you forget about numbers ... it's people that usually remind you about it ... but it's silly in the world we're living in nowadays to have prejudices about age ... we are less human than ever and the essence of the soul is the new gold or oil ... the way I see it ...

If you've got time and happiness who cares about money, love or even health? ... that's my theory: long happy life for everyone on Earth!!!
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Re: Age Differences in Dating
« Reply #2 on: September 16, 2006, 02:43:05 AM »
ya, i wouldnt mind that, i date younger women (youngest was 3 years younger)
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Re: Age Differences in Dating
« Reply #3 on: September 16, 2006, 03:41:39 AM »
I always date girls who are younger than me. Youngest I've dated is 2 years younger than me. When I was in grade 10 I remember other girls in my grade would be dating 20 year olds, I thought that was a bit rediculous.
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Re: Age Differences in Dating
« Reply #4 on: September 16, 2006, 09:21:45 AM »
This is always a touchy subject. When a girl is 18, any age difference is acceptable, but when she's 16, dating a guy that's more than 3 years older probably isn't a great idea.

Unless if the guy is a rock star, of course...  ;)

When Brian Wilson of the Beach Boys started dating his future wife, he was 21 and she was 14. They married 2 years later.

Elvis Presley met Priscilla when she was 14 and she moved in with him when she was 17 (even though she claimed they never had sex until the day they married - their only daughter was born EXACTLY 9 months later).

Jerry Lee Lewis married his 3rd wife when he was 23 and she was 13 (she was the daughter of his cousin/bass player)

Bill Wyman of the Rolling Stones started dating Mandy Smith when he was 47 and she was 13 (with her mother's blessing). His son later married her mother.

Chuck Berry was once arrested because he had a 14 year old girl working for him as a prostitute.
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Re: Age Differences in Dating
« Reply #5 on: September 30, 2006, 10:25:54 AM »
I'm 20 years older than my girlfriend. When it was 41/21 it used to really freak me out and it felt like I was doing something very wrong (to the point that I tried to end it several times.) Now at 48/28 it don't seem so bad.
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Re: Age Differences in Dating
« Reply #6 on: September 30, 2006, 11:38:43 AM »
And by the time is 100/80, it doesn't make any difference any more.
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Re: Age Differences in Dating
« Reply #7 on: September 30, 2006, 11:41:47 AM »
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And by the time is 100/80, it doesn't make any difference any more.

Ha! She's Indian and is always pointing out that if her mom is ever widowed (touch wood) she would have to come and stay with us, and how would I feel about that?. I point out to her that by then she'll be mushing both our meals with a fork. Just doesn't get the joke.
But you're right. The difference declines daily. God bless hats and viagra.
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Re: Age Differences in Dating
« Reply #8 on: September 30, 2006, 07:55:05 PM »
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Bill Wyman of the Rolling Stones started dating Mandy Smith when he was 47 and she was 13 (with her mother's blessing). His son later married her mother.

That one's a little much. How old was she when they got married? I think its also a little different for rockstars than us normal people.

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Re: Age Differences in Dating
« Reply #9 on: October 01, 2006, 04:12:31 AM »
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Some people say that girls shouldn't date older guys... that guys only want one thing out of them. Well, I don't think that's true. Girls are naturally more mature than guys[, so a 15-year-old girlwould have the same maturity level as a 17-year-old guy (if not more). I am 16, and I would never date a guy over 19, mostly just because my mom would freak out (Not that I've gotten any offers). What do you think?

No.

Just no.
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Re: Age Differences in Dating
« Reply #10 on: October 01, 2006, 10:41:49 AM »
It's a fact that girls usually mature a little quicker than boys.
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Re: Age Differences in Dating
« Reply #11 on: October 01, 2006, 03:06:31 PM »
wayne's years must go unusually quicker than the rest of us then, wheres he been creeping latley anyway?
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Re: Age Differences in Dating
« Reply #12 on: October 01, 2006, 03:25:23 PM »
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It's a fact that girls usually mature a little quicker than boys.

Quicker, maybe.  But until when? By the time it gets to high school, I've seen nothing that would indicate that girls as a whole hold any more maturity than boys.  And by the time I reached upper high school years and started college, I probably would have been more inclined to believe that women are more immature.  Hell, the most mature people I knew back in 10th grade, Mairi's age, were guys, while the most dramatic and illogical would have been the girls.  I barely know any girls that would admit that there's a difference, anymore, if any.

It IS also a fact, or at least common sense, that many young girls have no idea what they want, will do one thing one minute and change their minds the next, like jerky guys for a "challenge," are more dramatic, accuse guys of being all about looks when girls are the exact same way, etc.  Feel free to dispute any of that if you'd like.
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Re: Age Differences in Dating
« Reply #13 on: October 01, 2006, 04:58:20 PM »
Yeah, well... Just like there are a lot of really stupid boys, there are also a lot of really stupid girls. But overall, generally speaking, I think the average 16 year old girl is more mature than the average 16 year old guy.

I don't think any 18 year old guy would have a problem with dating a 16 year old girl. But I don't think there are many 18 year old girls that would even consider dating a 16 year old boy. That should tell you something.
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Re: Age Differences in Dating
« Reply #14 on: October 01, 2006, 06:40:20 PM »
As BP said, a lot of teenagers in general are really immature... but I know more mature girls than I know mature guys. I mean the guys in my class (grade 11) *shakes head*...

Girls are often interested in dating and romance long before guys are, at least from my experience. Although I tend to hang out with 3 close guy friends and very few girl friends, so maybe I'm not an expert. I'm NOT saying that girls are smarter than guys. Just more mature. It's the way our brains wired.

But there are a LOT and I mean a LOT of stupid girls out there.
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Re: Age Differences in Dating
« Reply #15 on: October 01, 2006, 07:50:18 PM »
my wife was 16 when i married her...i was 31....we have a strong relationship...we will celebrate our 12th anniversary in may......we have 3 kids and both work....i think the first few years of a relationship are the most important...you create lasting impressions in the beginning......her mom and dad both like me..not that thats important it just helps life go smoother....women tend to mature earlier it's true....but who wants to get old that quick??enjoy your youth...when i wanted to get married her mom said great...her dad was worried about the age difference and would not sign the consent form...her mom did...her grand dad said i was a nazi...her brother worked for me and we were close intil i married sonia...then he kind of shyed away....anyways i think love between two people can transend an age gap...it also depends on how open minded you are..like for me to freak out if my daughter did the same thing then i would be a hypocrit...but i say every situation has different circumstance...evaluate the situation then make a decision...any ways what was the question??
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Re: Age Differences in Dating
« Reply #16 on: October 01, 2006, 10:39:35 PM »
first of all, generalizations are bad. there are always plenty exceptions to the rule, or any rule for that matter. there are guys that are as mature as 20something year olds and there are some that act like little sh*ts. same goes for girls, some go for that whole romance/long term relationship thing, and others are there for kicks and giggles. so there isnt any real generalization to be made.

as for problems with dating younger people, or people that have a 3 year or greater age difference, isnt a bad thing. go for it, enjoy it.

besides, for guys, its a huge ego boost if someone half their age really loves them even without the sex.
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Re: Age Differences in Dating
« Reply #17 on: October 02, 2006, 12:13:32 AM »
hahaha, I just remembered this episode of Goof Troop (cartoon show in the '90s, I guess I am showing my youth here) where somehow Max accidentally asked out PJ's crush to the dance, so PJ got his mom (in a bad costume) to pretend to be his date, while his dad, unaware of this, was driving them to the dance. The dad said, "Aren't you a little old to be PJ's date?" and she says in this hilarious valley girl voice, "GIRLS MATURE FASTER THAN BOYS!" and slams the window in the limo down.

Not really relevant to the discussion, just thought it was funny.
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Re: Age Differences in Dating
« Reply #18 on: October 02, 2006, 01:12:35 AM »
hahaha, i remember that show.
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Re: Age Differences in Dating
« Reply #19 on: October 02, 2006, 02:33:27 AM »
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Yeah, well... Just like there are a lot of really stupid boys, there are also a lot of really stupid girls. But overall, generally speaking, I think the average 16 year old girl is more mature than the average 16 year old guy.

I don't think any 18 year old guy would have a problem with dating a 16 year old girl. But I don't think there are many 18 year old girls that would even consider dating a 16 year old boy. That should tell you something.

Okay, I'm seeing where you're coming from.  What I was saying is that, as you get older and into 11th and 12th grade (and then college, where I am), the difference changes.  Right now, I'd say that for a lot of people I know, the roles flipped in a lot of instances, but that's just my experience.  The problem is that a lot of girls around my age are going for more arrogant or jerky guys because of the "challenge" they bring, which I find to be incredibly naive, but it's that point in their life, I guess.  So you can see why, at my point in time, I'd have a different opinion of the maturity of girls and guys.

I'm no psychologist, but after reading up, the answer to your last part is simple -- guys want younger, more attractive girls, while girls want older men with a good status.  It boil down to maturity, per se, as much as it does that.
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