Hey, tkitna. I am sorry to hear about the breakup of your marriage. I would think 30 years together would equal "together forever," but I guess not. It's always shocking to me when I hear of long-term marriages breaking up. From the little I know; I've learned that sometimes marriages crash after the children grow up and move away to start their own lives independent of mom and dad. Also, some people seem to "re-discover" themselves and feel like they have to move on - minus previous relationship bonds, etc. About two years ago, I learned that a former co-worker's long-term marriage ended. He said he never saw it coming. I always envied people with relationships but I'm not at all sure what would have happened if I hooked up with someone in my life. In some ways, I think marriage would have been very hard and trying for me. Oh, I just don't know how you can share a life with someone 24-7 while living in the same physical premises, too. It's like you never get a break or any personal space away from them. Then, if your partner is jealous and possessive - OUCH! Anyway, I just want to offer you my heartfelt sympathies. Stay sane and well if at all possible while undergoing this major painful transition in your life.